Peggy, 18, from Cape Cod MA. Modest Mouse, Tokyo Police Club, Grizzly Bear, The Dodos, and Fleet Foxes. Jazz and the Blues. Indoor Marching Percussion. Life is beautiful, ya drangus. For your health.
all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter
women were the ones who started wars
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running
And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.
For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, written 20 years ago by Carol Diehl.
She wrote a post about the history of this poem that is worth reading.
Anonymous said: I RAN OUT OF CHARACTERS! I was gonna ask if you do anything daily/regularly to maintain a state of openness or happiness or anything? Like...meditation or exercise or going for walks or playing music or anything? Like is there anything you actively do that specifically influences your general outlook/infectious attitude? THANKS FOR YOUR TIME.
These questions are harder than I thought they’d be to answer but I LOVE that because they challenge me to think inwardly and attempt to figure out different parts of my own psyche, which is super fun. Anyways YES, there are a couple things I like to do. When in a situation where I’m able to walk somewhere, I always do. The outdoors effects me like dang crazy, and now that I’m in a city-like setting as opposed to my hometown, I try to be outside as much as I can. The reason why I point this out, is because one thing that SUPER effects my entire day, is smiling at people. Whenever I walk anywhere I try to smile at literally everyone I pass. It’s weird and it feels uncomfortable and honestly the majority of the time people won’t pay me any attention and if they do they won’t smile back, but the physical act of smiling effects your mood. And when you find someone who does see you and does smile back, it’s such a reassuring and warm feeling. I’ve learned a lot from this, it really puts emphasis on the thought that people are naturally good. Actually now that I think about it a lot of what I do during the day to stay happy especially now that I’m in college, has a lot to do with people watching in general. I never really thought about that till now! I used to be all about exploring inwardly but after that enlightenment period when I learned to truly love myself, I also learned that the next step in my journey towards true happiness is loving everyone else. And that’s what I’ve been subconsciously working on! Wow, that’s cool shit. I’m just writing my thoughts down now which is again no help to you so SORRY. But yeah, I people watch a lot. That definitely makes me happy. I listen to stupidly absurd amounts of music during the day and that effects my mood x10000 in a positive way. I know I have more answers to this question swimming around in my brain but I JUST CANT THINK RIGHT NOW I’M SORRY. You’re awesome tho, thanks for being a great human.
Anonymous said: You make me feel comfortable and happy and special and I think you do that for everyone. So you're doing great and thank you. Is it ever hard for you to be happy? What do you do to stay/get happy?
THIS IS THE BEST, YOU ARE THE BEST. This made me smile for a long time so thank you! I’ve been thinking about your first question for a while now and I’ve overthought it so I don’t even know how to start answering it. BUT I’M GONNA TRY. I guess if we’re talking about momentary happiness than yes, sometimes it can be hard to be happy but it’s not the kind of hard where I feel like I’m battling myself. I don’t force myself to be happy, it’s just easier I guess because in the grand scheme of things, I am a happy person. I hope this makes sense, maybe this will clarify. When negative feelings are experienced, I try to my best ability to deal with them as follows: If I’m feeling negative about anything at all, no matter the size, I am aware that negative feelings will only create a negative response in the physical reality - SO I try and consciously change those thoughts to positive ones and create a happier reality for myself. BUT as you know with humans, especially young ones like me, feelings are not easy to control. That’s something I’m still working on and am hoping to one day master - but until then, yes, it is hard to be (momentarily) happy sometimes. I’m gonna try not to take a million years answering this next question but NO PROMISES… I’ll try and sum it up. How I got/stay as happy as I am at this very moment has a lot to do with a period of enlightenment I had in December of last year. In SUPER short terms, I realized how life itself is a miracle. I understood the beauty in everything and everyone, myself included. I don’t necessarily need to remind myself to be happy or consciously try to think happy things because the universe does this for me. I’m constantly reminded by my surroundings just how beautiful everything is, and that everything is alive and breathing. My friends keep my faith in humanity alive, and my feelings and emotions (good or bad) remind me that I myself am alive and I am consciously aware that I am intelligent enough to feel. I’m sorry if this is no help to you, it’s just that I have literally endless thoughts about this subject and I could write novels on it. I can understand if you don’t feel comfortable but it would be THE BEST if you told me who you were so we could talk more in depth about this, if you’re interested. IF NOT, keep messaging me. I like you. Thanks again!